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By Alma Gill NNPA News Wire Columnist Dear Alma, I was married for 12 years. I raised our son and his twin daughters from his first marriage. When we separated and divorced I was heartbroken. But all the children remained with me. They are adults Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Hi Alma – I’m divorcing my husband of 24 years. (The ink is just about dry) We have been apart for the last 3 years. I’m new to dating again. I’ve been with my new guy for 2 years. We Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Ex-Wife Taking Up Too Much Time Dear Alma, My husband was married very young, from the age of 20-22. The marriage was a disaster and they divorced without having a conversation or even seeing each other in court. He Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Can’t Stand My Niece Dear Alma, I can’t stand my niece and it’s my sister’s fault. She made her daughter this way. Since the day her daughter was born, my sister has kissed the ground she walks on. My Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Mother Made a Mess of Our Family Dear Alma, I am the oldest of my mother’s children and have taken care of our family for most of my life. My mother started having children early, was married and divorced Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Different Parenting Styles Dear Alma, My neighbor and I have been friends for three years. I relocated from out of town, so it was a relief when we hit it off and started a wonderful friendship. We both have Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Indirectly Subsidizing my Ex Dear Alma,   My wife is vicious with a capital V! We were married for 8 years and over that time had two sons. She did everything imaginable. She lied, stole, manipulated. Here’s a few Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   My Best Friend is Marrying ‘Wicked Witch of the North” Dear Alma,  This is a question about my best friend. He and I have been best friends forever and we are just that – friends. I’m a woman and Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Dating My Ex-Husband’s ‘Twin’ Dear Alma,  I am new to your page. I am 50 years old, all my kids are grown and out of the house. I have been divorced over three years, and now I’ve been seeing Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   The Mother Ghost Dear Alma, I have a friend and we’ve known each other most of our lives. We’ve spent many years together going on family vacations, dealing with marriages and divorce. We had children around the same time Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist     Husband Doesn’t Defend Wife  Dear Alma, My husband accidently dialed my cell phone number and I heard him and his friend talking about me. His friend was saying that I talk about my husband behind his back and Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   A Niece with Sticky Fingers Dear Alma,  About six months ago, my sister moved back to our hometown with her daughter, who is 10 years old. They don’t live that far from me, its walking distance. I recently noticed Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Trying to Help Mom Dear Alma, My dad left my mom for another woman. My mother is so sad and I think it’s affecting her health. She was recently on leave from work because she is too sick to go. Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Dealing with an Absentee Mother Dear Alma, My best friend and college roommate grew up without her mother. She was raised by her father and they had a very close relationship. She shared with me that her mother left Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Boyfriend Wants Second Chance Dear Alma, My boyfriend left me to be with another woman. It wasn’t the first time he’s cheated, but it is the first time he moved out. He came by last weekend and asked if Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Unwanted Photos of my Ex-Husband  I recently decided to digitize my old photos and ran across a ton of family pictures of my first husband as a baby and while he was growing up, along with his family. We Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Deciding to Move On Dear Alma, I have been with this person for six years, and we’ve had our up and downs, like any relationship. We are living apart but he still wants us to keep our friendship. I Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   The One that Got Away Dear Alma,  I’ve been married for over 10 years and I’m very happy with my husband and two kids. My husband is very kind to me. My kids are very well behaved and we Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   My Daughter Wants Mom to Walk Her Down Aisle Dear Alma, I was married to my wife for 11 years. During that time we had three children, one daughter and two sons. In my opinion, our relationship deteriorated so Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Few Hang-out Friends Dear Alma, I have a nice majority of friends. However, I hang out mostly with my cousin. I am a year older; she is 18. With this being said, she has friends that are in her Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Answering my Critics Dear Alma, I have worked for a large cleaning company for the past 17 years. Our supervisor recently retired and I was promoted to that job. Once I was promoted, we hired a new guy to Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   A Dangerous Sister Act Dear Alma, My sister and I are very close. We’re only three years apart. Although not roommates, we do everything together. She’s a free spirit, college professor and lives well. I am a government employee Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Mama taking over the Wedding Hey, Alma – My friend is getting married, I’m in the wedding and I couldn’t be happier for her. She’s not a “big wedding” type of person, so her mom is taking the reins Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   My Niece Didn’t Invite Me to Her Wedding Dear Alma, I have never been this shocked and pissed all at the same time. My niece must be trippin! She has got to be crazy! I just received a group Read More

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    Confronting an Alcoholic Friend   Dear Alma,  I have a dear friend who is the sweetest, kindest person you could ever hope to know. She remembers everything you’ve ever told her, and always follows up to find out how things went. But, she’s Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   My Daddy is Having a Baby with a Young Thang  Dear Alma,  My 59-year-old father may have conceived a child with his 28-year-old girlfriend. I say “may” because his girlfriend sleeps around, and everybody in town knows it. My Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Marrying my Fiancé Children Dear Alma, I’m getting married in two months and the mother of his children is giving me hell. One day she says the kids (ages 6 and 12) can be in the wedding and the Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Long Distant Lover I am a 50-year-old field service engineer who travels 75 percent of the year for work. I love my job and appreciate the opportunity that I am able to travel around the world.  No, I’m not Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Mom’s Friend Turned on Me Dear Alma, My husband was laid off after 16 years on the job. My salary alone wasn’t enough to keep up with the bills, so we decided moving in with my mom was the Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Dear Alma, Ok, I was with a police officer for 10 years. He did some awful things in our relationship. Meaning he cheated on me. A lot of it was through the Internet or through the phone. Meaning he Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Mother Moved in but Won’t Move Out Dear Alma, My mother and I have a decent relationship. She was on drugs when I was growing up, but she’s stopped and is doing fine. She is healthy and able. She Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Should I give my Ex a Break on Support Payment? ‪Dear Alma,  I think I know what I’m going to do but I’m curious as to what you think about my situation. My husband and I were married for Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Wife’s Spending Out of Control Dear Alma, I love my wife and we have a great marriage. She’s beautiful, funny, spontaneous and easy to get along with. I can handle her good and her bad except for one thing. Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   An Unfair Request Dear Alma, I’m a single mother supporting my three children with no help from my ex-husband. I am thankful to have a great job that I like very much. I referred my BFF’s husband to the Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   A Tough Call Dear Alma, I’m friends with my next door neighbor. She’s not my BFF, but we hang from time to time. Her husband is in the military and she doesn’t have family in the area. She and Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   My Husband Holds Grudges Dear Alma, My husband cannot let things go – he holds grudges for way longer than the offense is worth. He brings up things that happened months/years ago to remind me of what he says Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   My Brother’s Non-Breakup Breakup Dear Alma, My brother and his fiancée broke off their engagement, which was a surprise to my whole family. Nobody totally knows the story, but she moved out of his house, unfriended him on Facebook, Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   To Marry to not to Marry Dear Alma, A friend of mine is engaged to her fiancé of 4 years, she recently found out that her fiancé has a child that he never told her about or talked about. Read More

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  By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Friend Won’t Let Go of Ex Dear Alma, My friend is a single mother. Her husband left her and their three children to be with a younger woman he had been working with. He said the new woman was Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   No Wedding Invite Dear Alma, A colleague has invited me to her bridal shower, but so far I’ve received no invitation to the wedding. I’ve known for about six months that the wedding would be out of state at Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Need to Move On Dear Alma, I have been with this person for six years, and we’ve had our up and downs, like any relationship. We are living apart but he still wants us to keep our friendship. I don’t, Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist How Can I Dump my Sister? Hey Ms. Alma, I’m getting married and I want everything to be perfect. We’re getting married at my childhood church and I got the reception hall I wanted. Everything is falling into place perfectly Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Dating Frat Brother’s Ex-Girlfriend Dear Alma,  My frat brother is getting married. We graduated over 15 years ago and so much has happened since then. We’re all successful and living the lives we dreamed of. This is his second marriage Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Hello Ms. Alma, I need advice. I have been married to my husband for over year. I love him dearly but he constantly likes to wait until the last minute to take care of business. This really upsets and bothers Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist My Husband Stole from Church Dear Alma, My husband and I have been faithful servants in our church for over 20 years. I am on the Usher Board, Woman’s Day committee and we participate in the Married Couples Ministry (MCM). Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Single Dad Needs Help Dear Alma, I’m a single dad who recently relocated with my job. I’m raising my 11-year-old daughter alone. Her mom passed away 4 years ago. After my wife passed, I decided to focus on my daughter Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Can’t Get Friendship Back to Normal I have been best friends with the same person for the past 10 years. We always got along and never got into any major arguments. About 8 months ago we started working in the Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Not Speaking to My Brother Dear Alma, I cannot speak to my brother and I don’t know if I ever will again. The night our Dad died I called him to tell him and asked him to meet me at Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Guns and Kids Dear Alma, My college roommate came to visit my husband and me and our new baby. She lives in another state. My husband has a daughter from a previous relationship, she’s seven. She spends every other weekend Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Dating a Serial Cheater Dear Alma, This may be a silly story, but I need some advice. My boyfriend and I have been dating about six years now. We’ve had our ups and downs and all, but this by Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist New Beau Not All Smiles Dear Alma, I met a great guy online. We talked for a long time before we met and really got a chance to know each other. He is funny and kind and I totally enjoy Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Attitude and Temper from My 3-Year-Old Dear Alma, Help Needed! I’m a single dad. I have full custody of our 3-year old-daughter, and I need your advice. Every time I get my daughter back from her mom, I get nothing Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Apart While Being Together Dear Alma, My husband and I have been married for over 25 years. We’re both in our late 50s. On the outside looking in, we’re a church going happy couple, but the reality is, we’re Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Little Brother Working My Last Nerve Dear Alma, My little brother is getting on my last nerve. He is 32 and can’t seem to get it together. He is always calling me telling me how his water is about to Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist My Sister’s Risky Behavior Dear Alma, My sister and I are very close. We’re only three years apart. Although not roommates we do everything together. She’s a free spirit, college professor and lives well. I am a government employee that Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Making a Difference Between the Grandkids Dear Alma, My husband and I are educated and very successful in our careers. We have been married for 10 years. I had a daughter when I was young, before I got married. Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Affair with a Coworker Dear Alma, I had an affair with a coworker that led to the demise of my marriage. Biggest mistake of my life. I feel as though I am getting the short end of the stick Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   My Husband Embarrassed Me Dear Alma, We were recently at a cookout at my cousin’s house and I went over to sit on my husband’s lap. The next thing I knew, he pulled my dress up all the way Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Asking Someone Out Dear Alma, I am a divorced man in my early fifties. I have been debating asking out a wonderful woman who works at the gym where I work out. I think she’s in her early twenties, but Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Alcoholic Parents Dear Alma, My Dad and my Stepmom have been together for over 20 years. They both have and always did drink way too much. I’d even say both are alcoholics. Recently my Dad was hospitalized and obviously Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Teen Wants to Chill with ‘Boyfriend’ Dear Alma,  My 17-year old-daughter claims she has a boyfriend. I said no u don’t your too young. Now she says she wants to chill at his house for a little while; she Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   A Christian with a Short Memory Dear Alma, I have a friend who is the ultimate Christian. Since she’s been “saved,” she has been more judgmental of others, as if she doesn’t have a past. Back in the day, Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Cancer and Romance Dear Alma, My wife died four years ago after a long battle with lung cancer. We had been married more than 25 years, and I took care of her until the end. Now at age 62, Read More