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By Alma Gill NNPA News Wire Columnist Dear Alma, I need advice about a terrible family situation that involves me and all of my siblings, and it’s breaking us apart. I am one of nine children. We were all born and raised in the South. Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA News Wire Columnist Dear Alma, My 59-year-old father may have conceived a child with his 28-year-old girlfriend. I say “may” because his girlfriend sleeps around, and everybody in town knows it. My father is raising this child as his own. He Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA News Wire Columnist Dear Alma, I hate my husband’s best friend. They are total opposites and I just don’t get it. I understand they grew up together and went to the same high school, but really, it’s time for this relationship Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA News Wire Columnist Dear Alma, Five years into my marriage my husband moved himself into the downstairs bedroom. The initial reason given was, “He didn’t want to disturb the babies” (including a newborn) with his late-night arrival, and early departures for Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA News Wire Columnist Dear Alma, I was married for 12 years. I raised our son and his twin daughters from his first marriage. When we separated and divorced I was heartbroken. But all the children remained with me. They are adults Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Hi Alma – I’m divorcing my husband of 24 years. (The ink is just about dry) We have been apart for the last 3 years. I’m new to dating again. I’ve been with my new guy for 2 years. We Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Boyfriend Wants Second Chance Dear Alma, My boyfriend left me to be with another woman. It wasn’t the first time he’s cheated, but it is the first time he moved out. He came by last weekend and asked if Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Unwanted Photos of my Ex-Husband  I recently decided to digitize my old photos and ran across a ton of family pictures of my first husband as a baby and while he was growing up, along with his family. We Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   A Dangerous Sister Act Dear Alma, My sister and I are very close. We’re only three years apart. Although not roommates, we do everything together. She’s a free spirit, college professor and lives well. I am a government employee Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Mama taking over the Wedding Hey, Alma – My friend is getting married, I’m in the wedding and I couldn’t be happier for her. She’s not a “big wedding” type of person, so her mom is taking the reins Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   My Niece Didn’t Invite Me to Her Wedding Dear Alma, I have never been this shocked and pissed all at the same time. My niece must be trippin! She has got to be crazy! I just received a group Read More

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    Confronting an Alcoholic Friend   Dear Alma,  I have a dear friend who is the sweetest, kindest person you could ever hope to know. She remembers everything you’ve ever told her, and always follows up to find out how things went. But, she’s Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   My Daddy is Having a Baby with a Young Thang  Dear Alma,  My 59-year-old father may have conceived a child with his 28-year-old girlfriend. I say “may” because his girlfriend sleeps around, and everybody in town knows it. My Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Marrying my Fiancé Children Dear Alma, I’m getting married in two months and the mother of his children is giving me hell. One day she says the kids (ages 6 and 12) can be in the wedding and the Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Long Distant Lover I am a 50-year-old field service engineer who travels 75 percent of the year for work. I love my job and appreciate the opportunity that I am able to travel around the world.  No, I’m not Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Mom’s Friend Turned on Me Dear Alma, My husband was laid off after 16 years on the job. My salary alone wasn’t enough to keep up with the bills, so we decided moving in with my mom was the Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Mother Moved in but Won’t Move Out Dear Alma, My mother and I have a decent relationship. She was on drugs when I was growing up, but she’s stopped and is doing fine. She is healthy and able. She Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Should I give my Ex a Break on Support Payment? ‪Dear Alma,  I think I know what I’m going to do but I’m curious as to what you think about my situation. My husband and I were married for Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   An Unfair Request Dear Alma, I’m a single mother supporting my three children with no help from my ex-husband. I am thankful to have a great job that I like very much. I referred my BFF’s husband to the Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   My Husband Holds Grudges Dear Alma, My husband cannot let things go – he holds grudges for way longer than the offense is worth. He brings up things that happened months/years ago to remind me of what he says Read More

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  By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Friend Won’t Let Go of Ex Dear Alma, My friend is a single mother. Her husband left her and their three children to be with a younger woman he had been working with. He said the new woman was Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   No Wedding Invite Dear Alma, A colleague has invited me to her bridal shower, but so far I’ve received no invitation to the wedding. I’ve known for about six months that the wedding would be out of state at Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Need to Move On Dear Alma, I have been with this person for six years, and we’ve had our up and downs, like any relationship. We are living apart but he still wants us to keep our friendship. I don’t, Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist How Can I Dump my Sister? Hey Ms. Alma, I’m getting married and I want everything to be perfect. We’re getting married at my childhood church and I got the reception hall I wanted. Everything is falling into place perfectly Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Hello Ms. Alma, I need advice. I have been married to my husband for over year. I love him dearly but he constantly likes to wait until the last minute to take care of business. This really upsets and bothers Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist My Husband Stole from Church Dear Alma, My husband and I have been faithful servants in our church for over 20 years. I am on the Usher Board, Woman’s Day committee and we participate in the Married Couples Ministry (MCM). Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Can’t Get Friendship Back to Normal I have been best friends with the same person for the past 10 years. We always got along and never got into any major arguments. About 8 months ago we started working in the Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Guns and Kids Dear Alma, My college roommate came to visit my husband and me and our new baby. She lives in another state. My husband has a daughter from a previous relationship, she’s seven. She spends every other weekend Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Dating a Serial Cheater Dear Alma, This may be a silly story, but I need some advice. My boyfriend and I have been dating about six years now. We’ve had our ups and downs and all, but this by Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Attitude and Temper from My 3-Year-Old Dear Alma, Help Needed! I’m a single dad. I have full custody of our 3-year old-daughter, and I need your advice. Every time I get my daughter back from her mom, I get nothing Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Apart While Being Together Dear Alma, My husband and I have been married for over 25 years. We’re both in our late 50s. On the outside looking in, we’re a church going happy couple, but the reality is, we’re Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Little Brother Working My Last Nerve Dear Alma, My little brother is getting on my last nerve. He is 32 and can’t seem to get it together. He is always calling me telling me how his water is about to Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist My Sister’s Risky Behavior Dear Alma, My sister and I are very close. We’re only three years apart. Although not roommates we do everything together. She’s a free spirit, college professor and lives well. I am a government employee that Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Making a Difference Between the Grandkids Dear Alma, My husband and I are educated and very successful in our careers. We have been married for 10 years. I had a daughter when I was young, before I got married. Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Cancer and Romance Dear Alma, My wife died four years ago after a long battle with lung cancer. We had been married more than 25 years, and I took care of her until the end. Now at age 62, Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Dear Alma, My stepson, who I adore and have known most of his life, is getting married next summer. I love him and love the girl he is getting married to. Here is my problem. There is bad blood between Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Reverend Needs Heavenly Advice Dear Alma, My brother in-law is a minister, but he’s also an oblivious, self-centered fool. At Christmas, he irritates people by doing things like sitting in my 94-year-old mother’s favorite chair and acts hurt when we Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist An Expensive Invitation  Dear Alma,  Three years after my divorce I met a really nice man. I am 34 years old, financially secure with no children. So far we make each other happy and get along really well. We both Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Used by my Outside Woman Dear Alma, I’m starting to feel used. When I go out with the woman I’m seeing, she never offers to pay. She orders drinks and appetizers and extras like there’s no tomorrow, and when Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Intimidated by Girlfriend Dear Alma, My girlfriend is absolutely beautiful, gentle and kind, loving and respectful. Ninety-five percent of the time everything is perfect. But every now and again she goes off. She curses, screams, and throws things and Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Mother-in-Law is not Mom Dear Alma, When I married my husband a few years ago, my mother in-law invited me to start calling her “Mom” as opposed to her given name. I was uncomfortable with the suggestion for a Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Frustrated by Dementia   Dear Alma, I need advice to help my beloved sister who has dementia. I don’t know how to communicate with her anymore. We were once very close. She was talented and had a lot of Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   A Weighty Issue with my Wife Dear Alma, Before I begin, let me say upfront that I love my wife. That said, in the years since we wed, she has gained considerable weight. When we eat out, she stuffs Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   Keep my Nephew Away from my House Dear Alma, I know this may sound mean, but I can’t stand my sister’s son. He’s three years old and he talks back and never listens to what I tell him to Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   My Mother-in-Law Shows Favoritism   Dear Alma, I have a problem with my mother-in-law. She does not treat my husband and his brother the same. My husband and I have two grown children – a son and a daughter. Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   My Parents Didn’t Tell Me I was Adopted   Dear Alma, I’m 48 and single. I’ve had a great life with good friends and loving parents who are both now deceased. I travel for work, which is why I Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   I Snapped at my Mother-in-Law   Dear Alma, We were at my niece’s 5th birthday party. I’m pregnant, and it has not been easy. My MIL [mother-in-law] arrived and started greeting everybody. Then she asks how “baby Orlando” is Read More

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Ask Alma     Co-worker Constantly Complains Dear Alma, I have a co-worker who is unhappy with his job and isn’t too shy to say it. If you greet him in the morning he will say, “Man I hate this job. I’m sick of this Read More

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By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist   I am Featured in Pastor’s Sermons   Dear Alma, I’m not sure how to handle this problem. My sister in-law is a pastor of the church we, and our family attend. I often confide in her because we’re friends Read More

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Ask Alma By Alma Gill NNPA Columnist Struggling with Co-Workers’ Pregnancies Dear Alma, Two of my co-workers are pregnant. I am truly, truly happy for them…but I am unable to have children (and still struggle with it after 11 years). I have gone home in Read More

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Not Enough Home Cooking Dear Alma. Over my long Thanksgiving weekend, everywhere I went I encountered my married brothas complaining about the same thing – wives not wanting or initiating sex. It was as much a constant as football and turkey. These are good men, Read More