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I’m a White Woman looking for a Black man!
by Gwendolyn Baines
NNPA Columnist
Ask Gwendolyn Baines
Dear Gwendolyn:
Help me find a good Black man. I am a white female who loves Black men. It doesn’t matter if they have young children or grown children, or no children. I usually date guys younger than me. But I would like to meet someone either a few years younger or three years older. I wouldn’t like someone who drinks and who isn’t abusive. I don’t want someone who uses drugs. However, they can if given by the doctor. I am 58 years old and willing to give any man a chance. I want a companion and friendship. Then if it works out, there could be a lot more. I am a very lonely woman. I would like for you to help me.
Betty
Dear Betty:
I do hope my advice will help. First of all, I think you made an error when stating that you “wouldn’t like someone who drinks and who isn’t abusive.” Surely, that was not intended to read that way. Should have stated that you don’t want someone who is abusive. Big difference. Betty, I think you should check in the “Guinness Book of Records.” I do believe you may be the only White woman in the world who cannot find a Black man. I am so sorry to hear that you are 58 years old and lonely. However, you are not alone. You are at an age that is still wonderful. If you have children, they should be grown or at least teenagers. Think about what you are asking. You do not so willingly need to set your sights on a man with young children. Do you really think that becoming involved with a man of any color will solve your problem of loneliness? No, it won’t. Let me tell you this: Somehow, somewhere, you have allowed yourself to be misinformed. It is easy for you to see all the interracial couples and think “That’s what I want.” I am sure you have heard rumors that Black men favor white women. Again, Betty, all relationships do not end in joyful bliss. There are good men and bad men in all races. Just because you are 58 is no need to rush a situation. Think about it. Love will come your way if it is meant to be. Betty, life is too short to be 58 trying to find a man. Ask yourself, does he have to be Black? Funny thing, if you choose color over character, you will discover --- the true meaning of trouble.
Got a problem? Don’t solve it alone. Write to Gwendolyn Baines at P. O. Box 78246, Nashville, Tenn. 37207-8246. To order books by Gwendolyn Baines, visit her website at www.gwendolynbaines.com. Also, tune in to www.newblackcity.com each Monday at 6 p.m. Eastern/5 p.m. Central time and talk live as John Bordeaux brings Gwendolyn Baines to you. Call (877) 969-2003.
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